If the ultimate decision to let you go came as a surprise or simply wasn’t explained well,it’s not surprising that it would still occupy your thoughts – conscious and unconscious – years later.Credit:John Shakespeare
As someone who has had recurring dreams,I really feel for you. That feeling that something important is unresolved can be so disconcerting. Even disturbing.
I spoke with Dr Katie Wood,who’s an associate professor and clinical psychologist at Swinburne University of Technology,and we began by discussing your question about post-traumatic stress.
“If someone has a query around whether they’ve had a post-traumatic reaction to an incident,I would suggest they visit their GP. A GP can provide a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist who’s best placed to answer that question,” she says.
Wood made it clear that she would not attempt to make a diagnosis on written facts alone. She did,however,say that being let go can be a psychologically difficult experience for anyone.
If the ultimate decision to let you go came as a surprise,it’s not surprising that it would still occupy your thoughts years later.
“This sounds like a very stressful set of circumstances. What happens when you’re dismissed unexpectedly is that you can feel like you are in a sea of uncertainty. It’s natural to take refuge in your own head and to fill information gaps with questions about ‘what if’ and ‘what could have been’.
“That can be very distressing and anxiety provoking. And if you ruminate on it for a long time,it can be very impairing – mentally and physically.”