‘Get over it – or die’:Author Jeanette Winterson on her generation’s problem

Each week,Benjamin Law asks public figures to discuss the subjects we’re told to keep private by getting them to roll a die. The numbers they land on are the topics they’re given. This week,he talks to Jeanette Winterson. The 63-year-old English author’s books include her debut novel,Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit,and a memoir,Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? Her latest is a series of essays on the subject of AI,called12 Bytes.

Jeanette Winterson:“I’m a Virgo,so my house isn’t really tidy enough for me to die today.”

Jeanette Winterson:“I’m a Virgo,so my house isn’t really tidy enough for me to die today.”John Davis

DEATH

Your adopted mother was a devout Pentecostal Christian. What were you told about death growing up?My mother thought of life as a pre-death experience. She was always longing for the grave and believed that once death happened,we would all be freed from the emergencies and indignities of physical life,and go to glory. So I never grew up worrying about it. I still don’t. Death doesn’t bother me at all. What does bother me is not living well.

What do you believe happens after we die?Well,I’m fascinated by the fact that not since the Enlightenment – when science and religion began to take very separate paths – have science and religion been asking the same question:must consciousness be confined within materiality? And that’s because of AI. Maybe the body isn’t the final iteration of the self. Maybe we can upload our own consciousness and not be tethered to any single self. Which is what religion promises.

What has been the defining loss of your life?For me,it’s not family,it’s close friends. Being gay,and growing up at a time,the ’80s in England,when it was very difficult,your real family were your friends – the people you loved,the people who loved you. Those communities were the bedrock of my life. Losing them really hurts. But I also feel the quality and power of the lives that have gone and that gives me hope.

If you were to die today,what would you regret not having done? Well,I’m a Virgo,so my house isn’t really tidy enough for me to die today.[Laughs] I’ve got to clean the kitchen and get the washing done before I go away.

What would you be most proud of having done? I’m proud of my work. Because everything has been the best I could do at the time.

BODIES

You’re now in your 60s. How’s your body holding up?Pretty good. I keep fit. I always used to be at a gym. When lockdown came,I bought a Peloton[exercise bike],which I adore. I’m in the Cotswolds and I’ve still got a little gym down the garden. We’re not talking anything fancy:a big wall mirror,some weights,a bench,the Peloton,a couple of big mats,balls.

How has your relationship with your body changed?You do notice your body changing as you get older. You have to work harder to keep yourself strong and well. You can’t do the things that you did in your 30s. I can’t stay up all night any more and not feel it the next day. That’s over. We gotta eat well;we gotta exercise. I want to stick around. It’s a very interesting time to be alive.

When do you feel most comfortable – and least comfortable – in your own skin?I’m most comfortable when I’m working outside. Maybe about halfway through a long day when you’re all warmed up and you’ve been planting things in your garden,digging or chopping. Anything like that,I feel a great sense of wellbeing. I least like it when I’m in crowded situations,surrounded by people I don’t know. Loud spaces are difficult for me. And I have to keep control of myself because,you know,I’m one of those people who’d just punch you. I would!

SEX

So much of your work explores,depicts and investigates sexuality and gender. How much of that is informed by the absence of discussing those things growing up?A lot. At least we live in a world now where people can talk and experience[those things]. But I’m still astonished that there’s so much body-shaming and body terror. I think you ought to be able to get into bed with somebody you fancy and have a good time without it being a performance – unless you both want it to be. Essentially,it’s got to be your space,hasn’t it? If you can’t live in your one true home – your body – where can you live?

One of the main characters in your 2019 novelFrankissstein is transgender. There’s so much transphobia at the moment,especially in the UK. What do you make of it?In the UK,we have a very negative conversation at the moment;both sides are so angry and shouting at each other. We know that never solves anything. So we’ve got to find safe spaces for women who feel that they just need to be in a room with other[cisgender] females. There should be room for that. We also have to find inclusivity and stop worrying that all trans women are rapists and secret oppressors. It’s become just another way of finding a group to demonise. I’m optimistic,though,because I don’t know any young people who really have a problem. Maybe my generation just has to either get over it or die. Why are we so hooked up on gender? Gay people have always been so good at saying,“This matters so much less than you think.” Trans people are pushing that argument further;we’ve gotta get past the binary.

How do you write a good sex scene?[Laughs] You have to really want to be in it yourself!

What makes for a bad sex scene in a book? Not being fully in it. Bad sex is always bad sex – in real life or in fiction – because somebody’s not really there.

What two books should I give to a partner as a sexy gift?One of yours,and one of someone else’s.One of mine:Written on the Body. I’d also say the best book about sex – where not very much sex happens at all – is Virginia Woolf’sOrlando. The first time-travelling trans novel. Delicious.

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Jeanette Winterson discusses Life and Mars:The Future of Human at Sydney’s Vivid Festival on June 3.

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Benjamin Law is a writer and author of The Family Law and Gaysia.

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